The Law of Attraction in Manifestation Therapy

The Law of Attraction.

What you seek is seeking you, Rumi.

So this is it.  The big one.  The one that created all the magic for people.  There are celebrities, musicians, politicians, business men and women, influencers, and more that have embraced the Law of Attraction with big, abundant creating arms.

Many individuals do not even realize that this principle is just one small part of how the energy of our universe is defined.  The Law of Attraction states that like attracts like, meaning what you put out you receive back.  But that is not the only way that energy exists within us, or around us.  However, it is definitely the most popular aspect and has paved the way for people to learn about the universal principles in new, exciting ways.

Often in therapeutic sessions if I bring up energy a client may stare at me with wide, glossed over vision, not completely understanding how energy works in connection with their thoughts, emotions and experiences.  But when I bring up ‘the law of attraction’ as a means of emphasizing this exploration they instantly recognize the meaning.
 

People like Jim Carrey, Oparah, Tony Robbins, Barrack Obamah, Elon Musk and more have all cited the popular principle as having a role in their lives, success and positive outlooks.

But what is it exactly, and how can it positively influence your practice and your success with clients in a therapeutic or coaching perspective?  Well, let’s take a look.

Understanding that what we put out we attract back is powerful.  Supporting those we work with in this understanding is empowering for their ability to successfully achieve their goals.  

Social stories can benefit this understanding and the confidence in how this process can work in favour of where we want to go.  

My own social stories are frequently used with some of the clients I work with.  

After losing 8 individuals in my life, all of which who played important roles, some of which who were foundational in my survival as support systems I was stuck in my grief with isolation.  This is how I coped, as a lost child role in my family dynamics as a child, and it was where I regressed to in my adult time of stress.

It was during this time that the Secret had been released, both in book and movie form and somehow I came upon it.  Having always loved books, I had previously connected with the Celestine Prophecy and spiritual books written on connections with the other side or how to maneuver our lives in positive frameworks.  The Secret was the doorway into a new mindset that I needed during my time of grief and isolation.  

I ran with this mindset, reading books from Eckert Tolle and Louise Hay that changed my life in ways that I have never returned from.  Since those days (I will get into that story in more depth I am sure some day) I have manifested SO much into my life.

I manifested a home, multiple vehicles, experiences, travel, vacations, TWO children in a body that I was told could never have one, the health of my children, my own health, my partner, our relationship thriving… I have manifested education, financial freedom from debt, employment, better employment, clients, training, friendships and so much more.  I continue to manifest daily, and part of this comes from understanding as a manifestation coach and therapist that the energy we have, and are within is part of many principles of the universe, not only the Law of Attraction.

It also comes from understanding that the Law of Attraction is based on the feelings we have, not only our thoughts, but our emotional responses to these thoughts, and to the experience of the emotion in our bodies.  By feeling what we want, by truly experiencing it in the present moment we launch ourselves forward into it.  We attract it to our experience by experiencing it in the now.

Anyone can do this.

I have been trying to get my daughter to learn better emotional regulation and strategize on manifestation.  Sometimes she loves it, sometimes she says she ‘doesn’t want to breath’ anymore.

This morning when we woke up I told her how exciting the day was, it was her field trip day at school.  She had chosen to go on a conservation tour and art day with her friends.  Except she sadly informed me as she opened her eyes that her friends had actually chosen bowling, handing in their sheets on Monday, and that today (Wednesday) she was pretty sure she would be the only one from her entire class going on the conservation outing.  She was pretty devastated, and I was certain wanted me to say she could just throw in the towel and stay home.

We want what is best for our kids.  Always.  At least those of us that know better do.  Sometimes that isn’t the easy way out, so I was not going to just let her stay home without some effort.  I told her that we would reach out and see what we could do with her teacher and principle, but that otherwise she could look at it as a learning experience, go on the outing, maybe make other friends, maybe hope some of her friends in other classrooms would be in attendance.  Staying home if she chose would not be very much fun, or much of a learning experience and I did not want her to choose that, so if she did to bare that in mind.  

She was not happy, and I could tell that her anxiety was peaking.  My daughter was born very early and has had a lot of struggles in her 10 years already.  She can get pretty anxious, and it can be heart crushing to see and experience with her.

I reached out to her teacher, and to the principle in hopes there could be a switch, but really not expecting one.  And then I thought - why are we dreading the day, why not just change it.

So I went up to where she had gotten dressed, sat on the floor with her criss cross apple sauce, took her hands in mine and directed her to take three deep breaths with her eyes closed.  I told her to visualize the bowling alley, to picture the funny shoes on her feet, to hear the the laughing of her friends.  To feel the smooth ball in her fingers, to smell the popcorn in the air, to taste the juice she just drank.  I told her to feel the happiness, the gratefulness that she was able to switch to being there with her friends.  I told her to imagine herself throwing that ball down the alley at the pins, and oops she only got one, but that’s ok because she’s having fun.  I could tell she could really see it because she blew a raspberry of disappointment, but smiled.  Then I told her to imagine getting on the bus at the end of the day and sitting with her best friend, laughing.  That she could feel the happiness, the fun that she had.  And then - to release it.

I had her open her eyes and she laughed.  There.  Now if it doesn’t happen it doesn’t happen, but you just created it, so if it does, you will have new faith in how this works.  Either way at the end of the day today you are going to feel that you had a fun day.  She nodded, not really believing in what we had just done - I could tell - but humouring her mom just the same.

When I got in my van to head to work I got an email from her principle that she was able to switch - no problem at all.  I went back inside to let her know the news, and she cheered.  

The law of attraction in action isn’t about abundance, million dollar homes, having the newest fashion or jems.  It is about that cheering.  It is about that feeling of pleasure, joy, gratitude.  Abundance is a feeling, not a material good.  The goods just sometimes enhance the feeling.

The Law of Attraction in manifestation is that when we feel good we get good.  When we give out, we get back (although this is more the Law of Compensation).  What we feel is drawn to us.  Like when we smile and laugh others are drawn to us.  Or when you yourself are drawn to someone that is feeling positive.  Or when you feel low you may be drawn into the person who is most critical so you can be critical together.  (Because it works both ways)

It is about how we feel, body, emotion, mind.  

So awareness is so important.  It is a knowing what we feel, how we are projecting that, will effect what we experience because we attract it back.